Jeannie, I know how you feel. Unfortunately narcissists (I assume your guy is a narcissist, given what you have said) never see anything wrong in what they do. It is ALWAYS the other person’s fault. And most narcs will not blink an eye when telling lies. They will proclaim love to one, while courting two or three other women. It sounds as if your guy wants a woman to mother his kids so he can play sports and have someone else pay the bills. It definitely helps if the target of narcissistic supply is well-heeled and well-connected. Good luck. I recommend dumping him. He has already cheated on you at least once.