Eric – man I understand your pain. I’ve been married 20 years to a woman who has many of the same characteristics of your housemate- wife, which is what we’ve become as well. So much of what you wrote resonates with me and my own situation- I just want you to know you are not alone and I understand your dispair. It’s no life to live that’s for sure but the trap is set and we’re in it. A guilded cage so to speak. I desperately want to escape the insanity but like you would toss any hope of retirement out the window in the process- maybe the afterlife has some redemption waiting for us in eternity… I scoffed when my sister in law recently said she believes what we are living now is actually hell! We’ll, maybe she’s right – I don’t know – I just try to stay focused on work, hobbies and meeting new people best I can – and I hope you can find some respite and calm in some things you enjoy too – Just remember you’re not alone! Take good care of yourself, best you can, mentally and physically