I am going throw a divorce but not filed yet. She said she can’t live “like this” no more. 2 prior separation.. Actually she called them that but the first time she left, other timmes says i threw her out. We were married 23 years together 26. 2 grown kids. I am keeping the house. She said she wants it quick so we can heel and move on. Her stuff is still here, promises to get it but never does. I offer help.. Now i am expexcted to do it all. Her divorce but i have to file, 2 reasons, she never will, shhes become irresponsible and i don’t trust her to out i get the house. The house hss fallen in disrepair over the years and that is also up to me. She wants out, but will text me about picking up her stuff, but never shows and ghost me when i want to know whats going on. Why would she do and say these things.. I don’t contact her she text or calls me. Why? She looked and found an old boyfriend.. I caught her, she eas going to leave me for him. I forgave but couldn’t forget. I have been blamed for our failed marrage, belittled by her and her friend. I was beat down, but it was my fault. How do i get not just out.. But get over her? How do i move on?