I’ve been divorced for 5 years and I have remained close to my ex’s family – for 12 years they were also my family and I think in many ways, as a wife and a mother, my relationships with them were often tighter than his. I’m so grateful that they didn’t feel like they needed to take sides – it took a little while for us all to process the new normal, but there is enough room for all of us and I think who most benefits from that are our kids. It is big and messy and complicated, and it takes a lot of sensitivity, but that is the reality of splitting a family, especially one with young kids, and changing the dynamics.