Call for divorce on Valentines Day
February 16, 2019 at 6:49 pm
It’s finally happened. after just 4 days shy of
our 13th anniversary my wife has asked for
separation. Very hard to talk about this but i
just don’t know who to talk to or where to talk
so was happy to have found this page even though
it took me 30-40mins of searching to find. Its
amazing how there are more sites for lawyers
then support/help.
But after several days of talking we finally
started a dialog to go off. We sat down and my
wife admitted that her feelings for me have been
gone for almost 3 years now but an event from 2
years ago was her tipping point. From there she
has been withdrawing herself from me while not
saying anything and i never picked up on
anything so i’ll take blame here.
But what has made it even harder was the fact
that while she was overseas dealing with family
business and she fell in love with a long time
friend of hers. He now has her heart and she
came back without telling me anything or even
admitting to it until valentines day. Now i’m
trying to pick up the pieces of my life knowing
that i will be living with the woman i still
love but her heart belongs elsewhere. I’m
trying to hold it together but its hard on me.
I just can’t stop crying over this.
But as much as we talked recently it seems like
she is torn between me and the other guy. She
says she still loves me but is not in love with
me but wants to still be friends which i’m fine
with but i just can’t continue life living with
her, It just hurts to bad seeing her everyday
in our house, our family just collapsing. It
wouldn’t be so bad if we just drifted apart and
became friends but its just she has had 3 years
to drift from me and i have had only 2 days to
come to terms with this.
Sorry if i’m double pacing and saying things
over but i have horrible health and my mind gets
fibro-fog easily. I tried stepping up my game
with helping around the house the best i can
with limited mobility but it just hurts that i’m
just now cluing into what has happened and
detest myself for not realizing my folly sooner.
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Hi Nathaniel — Just read this and I am so sorry to hear about that. Hope you are doing much better. Similar situation happened to me last year – and am finally feeling like my old self again. Trust the process — you will get through this.