How to begin the dreaded conversation

Brooke
November 2, 2017 at 9:00 pm
I’m trying to find the strength to talk to my husband about a divorce and don’t know how (if that makes sense) I recently found out that he is a prescription drug addict and blew our ENTIRE savings. Now we have nothing.. we haven’t slept in the same room for 2 years so I have slept in our spare room. My stepson decided he needed to move in because it’s closer to his job.. Husband literally threw me out of my bed (one that I HAD prior to our marriage) and I’m sleeping on the couch. When he gets up in the morning I go to lay in his bed so I don’t “disturb” him. Like just now he’s going to bed and he just threw my pillow into the hallway on the ground. I tried sticking up for myself and husband got mad and took off his wedding ring. I know we haven’t been happy for awhile but I think we stay together because of our daughter. Anyway not sure if this is where I need to be but I’m scared anytime I speak my mind he always says I’m a selfish woman who needs to grow the F up… I make a great living and do not want one penny of child support because I know he’s a amazing father who would buy our daughter whatever she needs as would I. I just don’t know where to start. I’m not a selfish person I just want to be happy
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TM13
I was in similar situation but also verbally abusive and temper where he would break stuff (w two toddlers around). I would straight out say I want a divorce this isn’t working it’s not good we both aren’t happy. That didn’t sink in but prepped him. The way I finally got it I wouldn’t suggest but was meeting up w someone else and when I got caught I lie I admitted it because I didn’t care and wanted out. Well that helped push things along. But made it ugly for a while. Don’t stay cause he’s a good father. He’ll still be a good father no matter what. If he’s not a good husband/companion/ supporter/ lover then look out for yourself and be happy