SAHM needs advice and friends!
November 19, 2017 at 2:18 am
Hi Everyone, I’m new here and not sure exactly how to start.
I’ve been married for over 14 years, and we have an 8 year old son. I have been a homemaker and stay-at-home-mom for 12 years (I had in-home daycare for 2 years while my son was young also.). before that I taught preschool for about 9 years. I have attended some college but I don’t have a degree. The past 6 years my health has declined. 6 years ago I was diagnosed with a permanent chronic illness that is progressive. I’ve had to undergo medical procedures, many hospital visits, and surgeries since then. I still valued my life, although I became pretty depressed at times and sought out therapy. I had/have hobbies and love being a wife and mom.
My husband has changed his view of me since my health decline. He spent more time away from home. I later found out that he has cheated on me multiple times. He had been threatening divorce for the past few years, and I begged him to stay. This past summer it finally got to a point where I felt like I just have to let him go. We sold our house and I used the equity plus my half of some inheritance money that we split to buy myself a new manufactured home so that my son and I would not have a mortgage. I even sold my car and bought a less expensive one to get this house. In return I am planning to let my husband keep his retirement fund as trade for the house equity. Trying to keep the assets fair. We have seen a divorce mediator once so far, and she seems fine with him telling her about his income (from 3 jobs) and just going by his word of mouth for all the numbers. I am so afraid. I don’t have money for a lawyer.
I am trying to figure out how I’m going to support myself and my son. I am 36 years old, In bad health. I guess I’d have to go to college to even get a decent career, and I am not sure when my health will decline more. I’m just so so scared, angry, and feeling overwhelmed by everything. I feel alone.
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