Should I keep the house or sell?
Selling puts you $57,500 ahead. Carrying the mortgage alone would consume 68% of take-home. I’d recommend the sale and redirecting equity toward your retirement gap.
Is his 401(k) really all his?
No. Contributions during marriage are marital property in Florida. You’re entitled to approx. $74,000 via a QDRO — don’t leave it on the table.
What should I ask my lawyer first?
1) How will the HELOC be handled? 2) Timeline for a QDRO? 3) Should we get an independent appraisal? Full list is in your Negotiation Prep.