Beware of trying to “make it up” to your children

Guilt is not a good basis for parenting.
We know it’s tough to be tough on your kids when you feel so damn guilty for breaking up the family but you need to return to “parenting” as soon as you are emotionally able.
Keep in mind that your parenting role may shift and may not look the same as it had been prior to the divorce. For instance, the “soft parent” will need to do more “disciplining” and the “hard parent” will need to be “softer.” Because your kids will be reliant on you to take on both roles in the household you need to make adjustments. For some of you, this will be a welcome opportunity to explore your own parenting possibilities. For others, this may be difficult to incorporate into your parenting. If you are the soft parent, try not to get even “softer,” “making it up to your children” (while expecting your ex to play the “hard parent” role even harder). You want your kids to be well rounded and don’t want to create “spoiled brats”.
We know its a tough balance to strike so talk to others going through this in our chat room and seek out advice.
The Angels