Hey Guys… Time apart from your kids can be extremely tough… especially at the beginning of your separation and even harder when the divorce is officially finalized. We know you miss them. We know you are struggling with being alone and finding your way without them. And we understand the angst you feel about not knowing what and how they are doing!
But keep in mind that your children did not get divorced – only you and your ex did. This means they are still your ex’s kids so try to be respectful of that! When they aren’t with you, try not to let your own anxiety show and refrain from the over abundance of calls and texts. Trust that they are being loved and cared for by the other half of the family that adores them.
Yes – it may be a different way then the way in which you would care for them but that is ok! Your children will be exposed to different home environments and its best to let them settle into both of those homes as painlessly as possible.
So think of the time apart as a time out for you! Just focus on what you can do with yourself – use the time to find a hobby, call a friend, pick up a language, cook or workout – whatever it takes to keep your mind off of them.
Soon they will be back in your home for some quality time with you. Until then its a time out for you!
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The Angels
