Collaborative divorce can be a good idea for some people going through a divorce. Collaborative divorce is a non-adversarial approach to divorce that involves both parties working together to reach a mutually acceptable agreement. Here are some reasons why a collaborative divorce may be a good idea:
- Control: Collaborative divorce allows you and your spouse to have control over the outcome of your divorce, rather than leaving the decision in the hands of a judge.
- Flexibility: Collaborative divorce is a flexible process that can be tailored to meet the specific needs of your family.
- Cost-effective: Collaborative divorce can often be less expensive than going to court and can save you time and money in legal fees.
- Confidential: Collaborative divorce is a confidential process, which can be important for some people who want to keep the details of their divorce private.
- Collaborative: Collaborative divorce promotes a collaborative approach to divorce, which can be helpful in preserving the relationship between the parties and promoting a positive outcome for everyone involved.
- Less adversarial: Collaborative divorce is less adversarial than going to court and can help to reduce conflict and stress during the divorce process.
However, it is important to keep in mind that collaborative divorce may not be suitable for everyone. If you have a complex or high-conflict divorce, or if there are issues of domestic violence or abuse, collaborative divorce may not be the best choice for you. In these cases, it may be necessary to seek the help of a family law attorney to ensure that your rights and interests are protected.
Ultimately, the decision to go through a collaborative divorce or a traditional divorce process is a personal one and should be based on your specific circumstances and needs. If you’re unsure about whether a collaborative divorce is the right choice for you, it’s a good idea to speak with a family law attorney who can help you evaluate your options and make an informed decision.
John
Collaborative is the only way to go if both parties are willing to work things out equitably. Interestingly enough I found myself doing most of the work in terms of negotiating the settlement with my ex-wife…honestly who needs lawyers for other than a court appearance and their support staff to file docs. The BIGGEST peace of advice I can offer is DONT file until you both are ready to sign. We wasted 14 months and $25k on meaningless conversations with our respective lawyers. Lots of recalling what was discussed weeks ago because our attorneys were either poor note takers or that’s just the way law firms operate so they can bill out countless hours without delivering results. It took my ex-wife and her attorney 14-months to deliver a settlement offer in an excel spreadsheet! What an embarrassment and to think they thought they were doing a great job!?! In any event, as long as you’re not at each others throats get to a happy place with assets allocation before engaging legal. Btw, I was able to negotiate a 60/40 split, that’s 60% me, that gave my ex what she wanted. Left up to her lawyer, loser (sorry), he would have cut the soft belly out of our family wealth valuing marital assets at market and not taking in account taxation, selling costs, etc AND netting his client the same that I did…I think he was just a jackass and didn’t like the fact that I was able to get my ex AND the judge to agree to my settlement offer! The legal system is broke and there are many lawyers that know how to manipulate the system for gain and present to their clients as a win…don’t believe them.