I am an avid reader of the Divorce Angels blog. I enjoy seeing all the different perspectives that the contributors bring. I’m not a writer. I don’t express my feelings well on paper (or maybe not even at all). My kid however, that’s an entirely different story. My 10 year old son is a beautiful writer. He’s creative and patient and possesses all the things that I would think you need to write well.
It occurred to me that if I wanted to figure out how my son was handling my divorce from his father, I should ask him to write about it. What he wrote was incredible because it gave me a window into how he was coping, and it brought me such a sense of pride for the way I have parented him since divorce. Not only did I see how well adjusted my son is, but he has some advice to offer other kids whose parents are divorced.
With his permission, I share it below, so that perhaps all readers can not only find comfort in my son’s words, but perhaps this is an effective and worthwhile exercise to have your child do. My son’s words have only been edited for spelling. The flow, the words and the thoughts are all his:
What Divorce means to me
It means that I need to switch homes and my parents don’t live together anymore. There are a lot of good things to divorce. Like for example I get two birthday gifts. I also get more homes to explore and more toys and games. Some other good things are I also get to meet new people because my mom has a boyfriend and my dad has a girlfriend.
It can also be bad because if you don’t like the person your mom or dad loves well then that can get awkward. If you come upon a scenario like that then here are a few tips…
- Tell your mom or dad that you don’t like their partner
- Tell them what you don’t like about them
- Try to talk it out with the parent and their partner
I hope that by sharing my son’s thoughts, the readers will see that your kids will be fine! It’s been a long and bumpy road, but for those of you who are just starting out on this road, read my son’s words with hope that your kids are resilient.
They will adjust, they will thrive and they will be strong and great with guidance from you!
Annonymous
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